“We know how it feels when no one understands you. We felt hopeless, sad, mad, scared, worried, and angry too. When you come to the Institute, everyone gets it. And then it’s a feeling of hope.”
– Dyan, IACD Treatment Parent
In their first three years, children learn 75% of what they will learn in life.
Too many children learn the pain of neglect or abuse in their most influential years.
Or they learn the loss of a parent, and the pain attached.
They learn that the attempt to bond with adults ends in hurt.
They learn not to trust them.
So they learn to protect themselves from people and love.
They learn to keep themselves safe from hurt.
They learn to rely only on themselves.
So they learn to push people as far from them as they can.
They learn to control their environments and everyone in them.
They learn to push away love.
This is called developmental trauma (also known as reactive attachment disorder).