From the perspective of Forrest Lien, IACD Director
If you’re a mom of a child with attachment issues, you know your child in a way no one else does. That’s because you are your child’s “nurturing enemy” (watch “Why Attachment Disorder Affects the Whole Family”) to learn what that means). Your child acts differently toward you than with anyone else.
Most mental health professionals are not helpful. Your spouse and extended family often don’t see the same behavior in your child as you do. Your child may act differently in school too. Ultimately, you feel alone. I receive desperate calls from adoptive moms almost every day. They are depressed and worn out. But there is help:
1) Stay connected to our parent blog and sign up for our newsletters.
2) Call the Institute to talk to an attachment specialist or a professional parent.
3) Share the video podcasts on our website with family and friends so they understand you and your child.
4) Contact your health care professional for possible medication for depression.
5) Take respite time to rejuvenate. To take care of your child, you need to take care of yourself as well.
When moms call my office, they often say that they “feel crazy”. I can hear their sighs of relief that someone finally understands them. It’s sad that they’ve waited for so long for the empathic phone call. Don’t wait. Reach out today. Remember, you’re not alone.
Learn more about the dynamics of attachment disorder and how to cope as a parent. Visit our video page and invite Forrest to speak to your parent group or organization.
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