This past year—due to a surgery and busy schedule—I missed two months of our mandatory respite time. At the Institute for Attachment & Child Development, that’s when we (the treatment families) have a chance to get away alone or as a family while someone else takes over on our behalf. That person takes care of our kids in treatment until we come back—refreshed.
After I missed my respite time, I realized why IACD requires it. By month three, I called our respite provider in tears and begged her to take my kids the next weekend. I needed a break! She agreed immediately (because she is awesome that way) and I planned a weekend away. Our family relaxed and spent time at a baseball game and fishing trip.
When you are the parent of a child with attachment disorder/reactive attachment disorder (RAD), you are under constant stress. It is a battle every day. Taking care of yourself is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do for the health of your child.
Reasons You (and your spouse and other kids) Need a Break from Your Child with RAD:
- If you are not at your best, you will show anger to your child which isn’t effective parenting.
- If you aren’t taking care of yourself, you are going to have a personal meltdown. That won’t help anyone.
- It’s important to reconnect with your other children. They need to know they are important too.
- It’s good for the health of your marriage…which is good for the health of your children.
- If momma/poppa ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!
Ways to Start Your Search for RAD Relief Care:
- Ask your therapist for possible relief care providers for children with reactive attachment disorder.
- Find support groups in your area. You can trade time with other parents who understand and have kids of their own with reactive attachment disorder. If you’re in the Denver area, contact us if you’re interested in joining a support group.
Learn more about our unique family therapy model at the Institute for Attachment and Child Development